mars 16, 2022


Par Simply Sheneka

“Becoming a high value woman starts from having a high value mindset.”

I would say that the mindset shift is the most crucial step on your femininity & high-value woman journey.

In was the case for me anyway, as I was only able to feel high value when I changed my mindset, do the inner work & and heal all my past traumas. 

Surprisingly, most women completely overlook this step and focus entirely on the exterior ( “How to dress feminine” “How do walk feminine” “How to look high-value” “what you should say to a man”, “how you should behave”, “when you should talk and when you should not”). Now yes...learning all these strategies is good. However, these tactical strategies often do not lend them the promised results that they want.

The reality is that those strategies, if not combined with a real mindset shift, cannot be effective and will never work.

Being a high-value woman is 90% of how you feel about yourself (which is predicted and determined by your mindset aka your inner self) and only 10% of how you communicate it to the world through your actions, your body language, and how you treat yourself, your appearance (aka your outer-self). 

You can have your makeup slayed. Outfits on point, However, if you do not do the required inner work, your confidence, understand the power of your subconscious, and heal from your past traumas from your mind. Or else, you will be stuck in a loop where your inner self does not match your outer self. A common manifestation of that is “imposter syndrome” & “low self-worth.”   

Your mindset is EVERYTHING! 

(1) You are the primary source of happiness in your life!

High value woman sets herself as her primary source of security and happiness. She is a self-assured, confident woman and she is content with herself.She is in charge of her own happiness and does not rely on her partner to make her happy. She is happy first by herself and she strives to share her joy and happiness with the right partner. You will never see a high value woman demanding from others to make her happy and blaming them for her misery. Because she puts herself first. she is tuned with her needs and is able to fulfill them herself.

How do you develop this mindset? 

By taking charge and responsibility for everything in your life, even for things you are not responsible for!

For example, it may not be your fault to lose your job when the economy is not doing well, but it is your responsibility to find a new one and to avoid jobs that are not too resilient in the future.

(2) You determine your own value!  

If you want to become a high value woman, you need to become the only person who determines your own value. A high value woman does not allow something or someone outside of herself to set and dictate her worth…not her family, nor her friends, nor her partner or even society. A high value woman is absolutely immune to other people’s inputs when it comes to her value.

This is very important to understand.

Most of the time, these opinions depend on people’s emotional state too, their insecurities, and their ego and so are biased and unstable by nature. That is why nobody’s opinion can become the basis of a high value woman’s value. She realizes that people (including her romantic partner), will always have different opinions about you.

If you think about it deeply, you very rarely receive unbiased opinions and advice that are meant to help you grow and improve yourself. You probably heard stories of amazing women, who looked happy and fulfilled before getting with someone, only to lose all their spark and joy and became so miserable being in a relationship. Often it is because their partner planted the seeds of low value in their minds and they were receptive to it. A high value woman will never allow this to happen. 

(3) Abundance, not scarcity mindset.

A high value woman does not see the glass half empty, she always sees it half full. She believes there are enough men out there for her not to be panicking if it does not work out with one of them.

She believes in her ability to always attract good people into her life so she does not need to retain those who want to leave her life.

(4) Complementarity, not competition mindset.

A high value woman is not looking to compete with a man, but rather to complement him. When a woman tries to compete with her man, she is usually insecure and wants to prove something to herself, to him, and to the world.  Self-assured women don’t need to prove anything. 

They are in the relationship to offer something and work as a team. She separates herself and her worth from any external inputs.

In conclusion:

Being a high value woman is 90 % of how you feel about yourself (which is predicted and determined by your mindset aka your inner self) and only 10 % of how you communicate it to the world through your actions, your body language, and how you treat yourself, your appearance (aka your outer-self). 

The question is are you ready to change your life for the better?

5 commentaires

  • Lydia août 17, 2022

    You shared amazing tips! Thank you so much, needed this.

  • Lupe Velazquez avril 18, 2022

    This article really defines and the reassurance of a high value confident woman. Thank you for being so thoughtful on specific things very helpful

  • Frances mars 25, 2022

    This is very insightful for me as you broaden my mind about this topic more. Thank you

  • Kabengele Mwelwa mars 21, 2022

    Best advice ever… I can’t wait for more.

  • Camilla Rono mars 21, 2022

    Love this thread.Spot on,

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